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[quote=Anonymous]If you're genuinely not leaving out garbage and crap, and he's really actively taking your stuff and throwing it out, including things like paintings your father painted, or children's clothes that still fit, and you've explicitly told him that this upsets you and asked him to stop:

(1) Pack up anything that's really really important to you (heirlooms, important documents, etc.) and put it somewhere safe (in case of escalation), and then

(2) Just start throwing away his stuff.  Toss anything leftovers he leaves in the fridge.  Anything he leaves out in the living room or kitchen is immediately thrown away the minute he leaves the room.  Take his cup away while he's still drinking.  If there is any food in the house that only he eats, toss it.  Hide his mail.  Etc.  If he knows this bothers you, and refuses to stop, you have to make him feel it.

What he's doing is not okay.  He needs to at least give you a chance to look at stuff before he tosses/donates/puts it in storage.  He could say, "Hey, is there a reason these papers are on the table?" before moving them.  Etc.  Just throwing away someone else's stuff without asking, unless it is obviously garbage (spoiled food, for example) is disrespectful and rude.  He's punishing you for his mother's hoarding, and that's not okay.

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