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[quote=Anonymous]To those who say that OP needs to make more money, OP can't jump to big law or a similarly paying job at this point in his life. If he went into the private sector, he would probably only make around what his wife makes (low $200s).  After tax, that means he'd only bring in another $30k or so - which hardly justifies him shifting to a crappier role with more stress and less work life balance.

Likewise, his wife could drop down to government and the hit would only be $40k after tax or so. An amount of money that, once they pay off loans and re-adjust their spending habits and expectations, should not make a huge overall impact on their financial goals.

OP's wife should suck it up for one more year and furiously pay off the loans, and then drop to a government or other better lifestyle job.  Household income would be approximately $300k, with zero debt other than mortgage debt (when you eventually buy another house).  You would live in a fine house, but not a mcmansion, in a nice neighborhood with good schools.  And you'll drive toyotas and mazdas for 8 years (not BMWs and audis).  But you will presumably be really happy - kids in good schools and parents both having good work life balance with money to pay for the things you want and need (vacations, extracurriculars, tutors, etc).

I have no idea why your wife is making this about you.  You both made shitty financial decisions in your 20s and took on way too much debt to go to law school.  It's not like her current salary is so much more than yours that it's dramatically improving your current financial situation.  If she was in big law making $500k, maybe I'd get where her resentment was coming from.  But her extra income is only like $40k after tax to your HHI.  And she's only been making that extra income for a few years - before that she was making government money.  She brought $150k of debt into this family solely on her own account.  Now she has to take responsibility for that, just like you.  [/quote]

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