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[quote=Anonymous]Gamer DW here. (I play, husband will occasionally.)

In general, there’s only two issues at the heart of these disputes: 1) that there’s an unequal distribution of labor in the household or 2) the other spouse has an issue with gaming as a hobby.

If your partner isn’t pulling his weight, you should by all means point this out and ask for a plan to make sure the household is handled before gameplay can resume. Sometimes it’s as simple as a checklist of things you want done before game time. If there is bonding happening (which is generally why people spend a lot of time in online games) it might help to just hammer out a schedule. A (female) friend of mine loves shooters and she’ll get texts when we go out with people trying to get her to join. It may just be time management.

But the second issue is a little worse - if you feel like gaming isn’t a legitimate hobby, that’s really rude and condescending to your spouse. What you describe - the drive to beat the game - is really normal, just like movie buffs watch films and Netflix junkies binge watch series. Many of the games I personally like to play take about 100 hours to beat and have really engaging plot lines. My husband was confused when we were dating as to why I didn’t necessarily want to leave the house on a Saturday or how I could spend 12 hours straight in front of a console, but we’ve been together 15 years at this point. He watches a ton of Netflix; I prefer video games. Also, it’s a pandemic - it’s another way to cope.[/quote]

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