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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, I had one of my Dad's many girlfriends call me demanding I see him and it was so unfair as he was such a good dad.  After listening to her for an hour, I finally laid into her and told her the truth.  At some point, enough is enough.[/quote]

This happened to me with my Dad's "new" wife (It's been 15+ years) and my inlaws.

I told them both essentially the same thing: Neither had any knowledge of what it was like growing up in our home, with him for a father. The wife has her experience now (and I have no idea what that's like but I do know that she does EVERYTHING for him). My FIL and MIL met him for all of 2 hours when he was on best behavior. So, no, they don't know and they have no business judging me or my decision regarding him. I've put up the boundaries I have after YEARS, DECADES of abusive behavior and this is what I need to do.

Then, I do not discuss it with them. Ever. Sometimes FIL will ask if I've talked to him and I simply respond "no. Pass the bread (or whatever thing we are doing at that time, I deflect.)[/quote]

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