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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]DP. When I sought therapy after discovering my husband had a double life for 4.5 years, my therapist told me I was suffering all of the classic signs of PTSD and my treatment would be similar.  He did say it was a “trauma” and it is treated through “trauma counseling”.

So, OP, I would find a good trauma therapist.  You should also be in couples therapy.

Your husband’s behavior is concerning though.  Mine never blamed me or refused to let me talk and ask questions as much as I wanted—and he answered them.  He is still in his own individual therapy.

Good luck.  It sounds like either he has a lot of shame and it hurts too much to go there or he doesn’t really have remorse. It should be his job to do anything to help you heal.  If he’s not willing to do that, you will need to make some decisions.[/quote]

Your husband should be reading books about how to help you heal and if he did he would see that it’s documented to take 2-5 years to recover from an affair (depending on many factors—length of time one of them).

If he does not think he handle that, dealing with the destruction he caused and being a sounding board for quite some time, he should get out.  He should be in his own therapy to have a place to process safely too.

Some people have told me 18 months-2 years was harder in some ways because the first year was one of such shock and there is often some hysterical bonding/closeness (or a ton in my case) and when things start to settle into normalcy—-it raises concern and brings back feelings of “this is how it was when he/she was cheating”.  This is why it’s a long process.  I can’t stress therapy enough for both of you.  Unfortunately, insurance doesn’t usually cover anything for couples therapy and it’s not cheap.  Another fallout from stupid decisions.[/quote]

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