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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This post is so enlightening. I've felt this way about my mother for several years now and can't say I recall her being quite so selfish and narcissistic when I was younger. My spouse thinks it's because we didn't have as much in common when I was younger as we do now that I'm also a mother etc. But I've felt like it's age or dementia or something.

You can't make a single statement to the woman without her framing it in her direct experiences. Like to the point where we just painted our kitchen and she was like "oh yeah, that's like what I painted [some part of her house]. Spoiler alert, it's not at all. Or "oh you just moved, well I'm buying new furniture too." These aren't the strongest examples but every single thing feels like a pissing match.

When does it become so hard for people to just say "oh yeah, that's really nice!" Or "great job" or something?

It's to the point where I don't even want to say anything because I'm too exhausted to deal. Like others have said, let her prattle on while I do something else.[/quote]

This is my mom 100%. Perfect example ... on our anniversary, I posted a picture of my husband and me, and then my mom (who didn't even acknowledge our anniversary, which ok, fine) comments on my post a few days later, on their anniversary, "cute picture, we are celebrating our 45th here in sunny florida!" and I'd already texted her first thing that morning to wish her and my dad happy anniversary. Like it's really too hard for her to just say "happy anniversary" and not mention herself. It's mind boggling to me. 
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