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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think they are tired of them, just have a hard time engaging with them. Little kids will talk about anything and teenagers won’t. [/quote]

NP. But 3/4 of our grandparents don’t make any effort to talk to them in an age appropriate manner. They will complain they never get to talk to the kids and I encourage them to also call or text them. The kids have cells and grandparents love to text and FaceTime their own friends. When they do talk, they treat them like they are five. My parents will constantly tell them about the deer they saw on the yard and my MIL will ask if they still like trains and unicorns and try to show them their baby photos. I tell all of them to stop talking and listen. Ask about their games and sports. FIL doesn’t talk much much when he does he will talk about war stories, fights he got into, ask if they are dating and sometimes swear. He’s always been a grumpy old man and now the teens love it. [/quote]

I don't think you're appreciating how hard it can be to be old.  The may seem very sharp on the things they do day in and day out - but that's a routine they're practicing every single day.  When your mind is overall working more slowly and you're in a smaller world where you do the same types of things and interact with the same types of people most days, it can be very difficult to have a sharp conversation with fast talking child or teen.  They don't remember what each age is like and may have a hard time processing  and retailing new information in conversation so its easier to talk about the same old familiar stuff.  We're all going to get old, you too will someday be the slow responding, boring, old person that teens don't want to slow down and try to engage with[/quote]

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