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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be  technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.[/quote]

Honest and brutal but right on the money. Most kids understand this intuitively and either adjust or not. And for all the shots people are taking at top kids on this particular thread, they are well aware at a young age of the burden of expectations placed on them by teammates and even other parents. It is helpful to support them appropriately. That is a crucial part of any team sport and any business where you have clearly more talented people on your team. Rec is a perfectly good option if you are looking for something less competitive (and no, I don’t mean that perjoratively). My son plays rec basketball for this very reason and both he and his parents enjoy it as much and perhaps more than his travel soccer team, which is pressure filled and full of kids vying to be top dog.  [/quote]

Umm yeah, except that none of the players on the teams we are talking about are going to make it to the pros or the national team. None. And regardless, that is no reason for coaches to mistreat children. Just as teachers aren't permitted to write off "stupid kids," coaches should coach the players in front of them. End of story. 
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PP. I totally agree with this. But again, not everybody is at TJ, or in AP or AAP.  That doesn’t mean you are written off. It just means you are in a different class or section. That’s not abusive.  And recognizing and supporting stronger players on a team is simply the right thing to do in most situations at any level. It is usually reciprocated. I don’t think this is really a controversial idea at all in competitive sports.  Of course everybody should be treated with respect and dignity, and diva behavior should be discouraged. But pretending kids have equal strengths in particular sports is pure fantasy. [/quote]

I agree with you too. There is realistic placement, and there is cruelty. I was the PP who mentioned my kid getting cut out of a picture posted on social media so that it would feature the club's star. That's cruel. It's particularly cruel when the star scored two goals off of my kid's amazing passes. I have no problem with realistic assessments and communicating about the appropriate level of play. But there is no excuse for freezing kids out, not telling them why they aren't playing, or not playing kids at all.  My not super fast kid has always been first off the bench because he's a great playmaker, so this isn't just a person issue for me. I've been to away tournaments on several occasions where a family paid for a hotel room and the kid did not play one minute of any of 3-4 games. That is cruel and inexcusable.  [/quote]

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