Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

Anonymous wrote:OP is the parent that says the players don’t pass the ball to my kid

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Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

Honest and brutal but right on the money. Most kids understand this intuitively and either adjust or not. And for all the shots people are taking at top kids on this particular thread, they are well aware at a young age of the burden of expectations placed on them by teammates and even other parents. It is helpful to support them appropriately. That is a crucial part of any team sport and any business where you have clearly more talented people on your team. Rec is a perfectly good option if you are looking for something less competitive (and no, I don’t mean that perjoratively). My son plays rec basketball for this very reason and both he and his parents enjoy it as much and perhaps more than his travel soccer team, which is pressure filled and full of kids vying to be top dog.

Umm yeah, except that none of the players on the teams we are talking about are going to make it to the pros or the national team. None. And regardless, that is no reason for coaches to mistreat children. Just as teachers aren't permitted to write off "stupid kids," coaches should coach the players in front of them. End of story.
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PP. I totally agree with this. But again, not everybody is at TJ, or in AP or AAP. That doesn’t mean you are written off. It just means you are in a different class or section. That’s not abusive. And recognizing and supporting stronger players on a team is simply the right thing to do in most situations at any level. It is usually reciprocated. I don’t think this is really a controversial idea at all in competitive sports. Of course everybody should be treated with respect and dignity, and diva behavior should be discouraged. But pretending kids have equal strengths in particular sports is pure fantasy.

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Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

Honest and brutal but right on the money. Most kids understand this intuitively and either adjust or not. And for all the shots people are taking at top kids on this particular thread, they are well aware at a young age of the burden of expectations placed on them by teammates and even other parents. It is helpful to support them appropriately. That is a crucial part of any team sport and any business where you have clearly more talented people on your team. Rec is a perfectly good option if you are looking for something less competitive (and no, I don’t mean that perjoratively). My son plays rec basketball for this very reason and both he and his parents enjoy it as much and perhaps more than his travel soccer team, which is pressure filled and full of kids vying to be top dog.

Umm yeah, except that none of the players on the teams we are talking about are going to make it to the pros or the national team. None. And regardless, that is no reason for coaches to mistreat children. Just as teachers aren't permitted to write off "stupid kids," coaches should coach the players in front of them. End of story.
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Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

Honest and brutal but right on the money. Most kids understand this intuitively and either adjust or not. And for all the shots people are taking at top kids on this particular thread, they are well aware at a young age of the burden of expectations placed on them by teammates and even other parents. It is helpful to support them appropriately. That is a crucial part of any team sport and any business where you have clearly more talented people on your team. Rec is a perfectly good option if you are looking for something less competitive (and no, I don’t mean that perjoratively). My son plays rec basketball for this very reason and both he and his parents enjoy it as much and perhaps more than his travel soccer team, which is pressure filled and full of kids vying to be top dog.

Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

Anonymous wrote:They keep score for a reason. Standings too. Tournaments cups are given to the winners not the most technical. I hear everyones complaints but even if you work to develop virtually all these kids to their maximum. They will almost all fall in the below average for a soccer player in the grand scheme of things. Everyone loves the game but the facts are in the USA soccer is thought of as the sport your less athletic kid has a chance at. Not tall enough or athletic enough for basketball. Not big enough or strong enough for football . Soccer is that great equalizer just teach them to be technical learn possession play, etc. The fact remains the 1% of soccer players that make it to the pros are exceptional athletes first. Which make becoming a technical player that much easier. Just enjoy you kids being competitive and learning life lessons in the process. Let your kids enjoy the process no matter how far it takes them. It may end at U10 or U19 but its their journey and they are the talent you are just the supporting cast know your role and stay in your lane.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a DS on a "high level" travel team and had a problem with the following:

Players not coming to practice during the week; showing up and starting games.

Sons of the assistant coaches. One was a pretty good player, but loved to hoof the ball at the goal from 35 yards out. He'd do this 8-10 times in a game. Doesn't work after U13, buddy. Head coach wouldn't say a word. Son of the other assistant was a big, strong kid who could defend well, but if he won the ball he would immediately pass it to someone wearing a different color shirt. Like, 18 out of 20 times. Even random passes should have better odds than that.

The better players will get treated differently--more playing time, more leeway to make mistakes, etc. No big deal. But it's doing EVERYONE a disservice, including those talented players, if the coach doesn't hold them to some kind of universal minimum standard.

We left that travel team after U14. 2 years later, 80% of the team is still together, same coach. They've gotten steadily worse.

Oh, that's a big problem. The "star" kids make mistake after mistake, taking poor shots when a teammate is wide open or even getting unnecessary fouls. The a bench player comes in and immediately gets yanked as soon as he loses the ball.

A lot of coaches in the area also only see 'activity' over "efficiency".

I can't tell you how many Coaches love the kid that 'hussles', runs around with a chicken with his head cutoff, yet produces literally NOTHING.

They don't notice the kid completing over 90% of his passes that knows when to run vs when to dribble, when to pass vs when to dribble. They like the energizer ineffective bunny. BTW, this is a trait of U.S. soccer. Bradley was king of this mode of play.

PP, I don't know if you are a coach or not, but one of my kids is the accurate/skill move the ball player, rather than the run around everywhere player. It's so hard in this area, because coaches tend to not appreciate kids like my son and even worse, for their skills to bear fruit, they need to be on a certain type of team where there is some level of soccer IQ. It's frustrating, because if you understand the game, it's not that much fun to play on a team where no one is where you expect them to be, where no one makes a run, and when players either play the long ball every time or dribble into a crowd.

1. Go to a program where the coaches appreciate this type of player and recruit other similar players which allows for the necessary style of play to work.
2. Challenge your son to be both accurate and energetic. Think Firmino: incredible technical ability but also works harder than anyone else on the team.

If only #1 were possible. Ha! We have only been one place in the 10-years my kids have been playing that can be described this way---but it is just too far logistically now that they are older.

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Anonymous wrote:God forbid teams utilize their most talented players. You people are idiots

And this does not stop at kids level. I played soccer to quite a high level as a holding midfielder and my job was to break up the opposition attack, win the ball, and get it to one of the more creative players on our team.

My kid is only little but funnily enough ends up playing this role even though I am not aware that his coach has asked him to. My kid does it well, loves doing it, and gets lots of game time.

Not everyone can be the goal scoring superstar.

Then when the recruiting age comes you regret that your kid never ever learned other positions. Your kid has not the guts to do a direct kick or a corner kick because he was stuck in one single position.

I should have said he often plays this role. He is more than comfortable doing the other things you describe and is well coached in and comfortable playing any position except goalkeeper. I guess we are lucky to have a good club and coach.

But a lot of parents in this area have an attitude that unless their kid is scoring goals every week then it is a disaster and they need to complain to coach.

And there are those that would like their kid that has been playing the entire game at Center D since age 10---to frickin' get a chance somewhere else. "Oh but when we take him out we get scored on'.

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Anonymous wrote:God forbid teams utilize their most talented players. You people are idiots

And this does not stop at kids level. I played soccer to quite a high level as a holding midfielder and my job was to break up the opposition attack, win the ball, and get it to one of the more creative players on our team.

My kid is only little but funnily enough ends up playing this role even though I am not aware that his coach has asked him to. My kid does it well, loves doing it, and gets lots of game time.

Not everyone can be the goal scoring superstar.

Then when the recruiting age comes you regret that your kid never ever learned other positions. Your kid has not the guts to do a direct kick or a corner kick because he was stuck in one single position.

I should have said he often plays this role. He is more than comfortable doing the other things you describe and is well coached in and comfortable playing any position except goalkeeper. I guess we are lucky to have a good club and coach.

But a lot of parents in this area have an attitude that unless their kid is scoring goals every week then it is a disaster and they need to complain to coach.

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Anonymous wrote:God forbid teams utilize their most talented players. You people are idiots

And this does not stop at kids level. I played soccer to quite a high level as a holding midfielder and my job was to break up the opposition attack, win the ball, and get it to one of the more creative players on our team.

My kid is only little but funnily enough ends up playing this role even though I am not aware that his coach has asked him to. My kid does it well, loves doing it, and gets lots of game time.

Not everyone can be the goal scoring superstar.

Then when the recruiting age comes you regret that your kid never ever learned other positions. Your kid has not the guts to do a direct kick or a corner kick because he was stuck in one single position.

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Anonymous wrote:God forbid teams utilize their most talented players. You people are idiots

And this does not stop at kids level. I played soccer to quite a high level as a holding midfielder and my job was to break up the opposition attack, win the ball, and get it to one of the more creative players on our team.

My kid is only little but funnily enough ends up playing this role even though I am not aware that his coach has asked him to. My kid does it well, loves doing it, and gets lots of game time.

Not everyone can be the goal scoring superstar.

Then when the recruiting age comes you regret that your kid never ever learned other positions. Your kid has not the guts to do a direct kick or a corner kick because he was stuck in one single position.

YEEEEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

They stunt development.

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Anonymous wrote:God forbid teams utilize their most talented players. You people are idiots

And this does not stop at kids level. I played soccer to quite a high level as a holding midfielder and my job was to break up the opposition attack, win the ball, and get it to one of the more creative players on our team.

My kid is only little but funnily enough ends up playing this role even though I am not aware that his coach has asked him to. My kid does it well, loves doing it, and gets lots of game time.

Not everyone can be the goal scoring superstar.

Then when the recruiting age comes you regret that your kid never ever learned other positions. Your kid has not the guts to do a direct kick or a corner kick because he was stuck in one single position.

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Anonymous wrote:I had a DS on a "high level" travel team and had a problem with the following:

Players not coming to practice during the week; showing up and starting games.

Sons of the assistant coaches. One was a pretty good player, but loved to hoof the ball at the goal from 35 yards out. He'd do this 8-10 times in a game. Doesn't work after U13, buddy. Head coach wouldn't say a word. Son of the other assistant was a big, strong kid who could defend well, but if he won the ball he would immediately pass it to someone wearing a different color shirt. Like, 18 out of 20 times. Even random passes should have better odds than that.

The better players will get treated differently--more playing time, more leeway to make mistakes, etc. No big deal. But it's doing EVERYONE a disservice, including those talented players, if the coach doesn't hold them to some kind of universal minimum standard.

We left that travel team after U14. 2 years later, 80% of the team is still together, same coach. They've gotten steadily worse.

Oh, that's a big problem. The "star" kids make mistake after mistake, taking poor shots when a teammate is wide open or even getting unnecessary fouls. The a bench player comes in and immediately gets yanked as soon as he loses the ball.

A lot of coaches in the area also only see 'activity' over "efficiency".

I can't tell you how many Coaches love the kid that 'hussles', runs around with a chicken with his head cutoff, yet produces literally NOTHING.

They don't notice the kid completing over 90% of his passes that knows when to run vs when to dribble, when to pass vs when to dribble. They like the energizer ineffective bunny. BTW, this is a trait of U.S. soccer. Bradley was king of this mode of play.

Our striker is like this. He plays the entire game and has almost zero completions and is always b*tching at every other player. U16. The Coach loves his 'drive'. Ummm---he dribbles into the ground over and over and over...and yeah he can run fast--but doesn't do sh*t.

things must have changed since I was that age, I'd expect a kid like that to spend most of practices and scrimmages on his back