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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m going to tell a very different angle (and an upfront side note, there seems to be a huge obsession with ‘getting what you paid for’, but if $$ is the primary concern, what are you even doing in soccer at all? Our kid likes soccer, its helping to foster some decent life skills, we all probably care a little too much about it, but overall it’s been worth it).  OK On with the key story.

To the OP:  If you kid is having a crisis of confidence and not playing well, figure out if your kid likes the lower division coach and ASK to be moved down.  We didn’t and we regret it.  Our kid has a fair bit of talent, and a LOT of speed.  Got bumped up to the top team at 10 from the a bottom team (club has 4-6 teams per age group, so you can figure out which club).  First half of the year, kid was getting just spun around.  Touch wasn’t great, coach was impatient, other kids were much better. Speed was still there, but the loss of confidence was huge.

Still, kid made “the top team” so we didn’t consider asking the coach about moving down, even though the emotions were raw and confidence was zero.  At the end of the season, the inevitable happened.

Low and behold, the next season the coach for the next team down was more development focused and less impatient, and it was like the lights came back on.

Kid is now 14, back on the top team and really enjoying the sport. We regret not learning more about the other coach and the players one rung down on the ladder, too caught up in the ego of being on an Academy team.

Soccer is so so dependent of confidence, so you, and you kid need to identify what things they need from a coach to build that confidence and skill.  Some kids like a stern coach, others like a warm and fuzzy one.  But all kids need a coach that values them and finds a way to help them get where they want to go.

So the simple thing is, if your kid is suffering on the upper team and losing confidence, AND, if you think the other coach/players have even a chance of being a better fit, ask to drop now.[/quote]

I needed to hear this. We are at the same club as you but younger. We have one of the biggest and fastest kids with medium foot skills- currently midlevel team. His goal is to move up to a higher team but his coach now is SO good, lots of patience and really focuses on improving each kid individually and as a whole. I have seen a big progression under this coach in a short amount of time. And ds confidence is very high here as he is a top player and gets lots of playing time- his confidence was very low when he rode the bench with much better players. [/quote]

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