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[quote=Anonymous]My mom has always touted that she was a very young, single mother. While that is very true, she had most, if not all of the time had a free baby sitter from the time that I was 4, and probably prior to that as well. I know that I was a difficult child because I wasn't like any other child she had ever dealt with (I was into sports and science, not dolls and dresses) and I spent quite a bit of time being sick. Beatings were common for not obeying the rules, even if she didn't understand why I broke the rules. Timeouts didn't exist. So, when I kept not getting up to go to the bathroom at night, I got beat. It wasn't until I kept getting UTIs that she realized that there was a medical issue. Anything that she didn't understand about me, she didn't really try to understand. Yes, I was fed, clothed, and got toys. I'm not saying I wasn't loved at all. I didn't get much attention, affection, or engagement. Thanks to her, I have learned that I don't like to beat my kids and that its not an effective means of punishment for all kids. I learned from my mom not being engaged in my life that its important for me to be engaged in my kids' lives. I want them to know that they can talk to me and can rely on me to be there for things that are important to them. My kids know that I'm not the touchy, feely type, but they know that they are loved, well taken care of, are important to me, and that I care about them.[/quote]

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