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[quote=Anonymous]This thread is very helpful to me.  My childhood was filled with two explosive parents, witnessing daily fights, whippings for minor infractions, and teasing or anger from my parents when I showed emotions or empathy.  I struggle with not being resentful and how to move forward.  My anger towards them is new.  I did move on the minute I left home and actually just never thought much about how miserable I was on a day-to-day basis. I just swept it under the rug I guess. I don't really talk to anyone about it in detail and typing this now feels like I am complaining. I am frustrated by how much emotional energy my childhood (something completely out of my control) still affects me. My parents were so selfish I learned toot want anything in life and was a martyr just catering to everyone around me because of it. I've slowly learned how to want things and try to enjoy life but it's hard. These feelings definitely came up after having children and I have more perspective on how extreme their behaviors were. Their emotional immaturity is now so evident I feel pity for my parents.  The harder thing is that I have one parent still in my life and the behaviors still continue so it is hard to put everything behind me. I do need to work on the advice here to not reveal anything private and keep my distance. I believe those here who are deeply impacted by mistreatment and abuse. Thank you for making me feel less alone.[/quote]

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