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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids got my (mom) last name.  Their middle name is their dad's surname.  I wasn't messing with hyphens.

[b]I carried them, , I birthed them, I mostly raised them.  They get my name.  There was never a question about this and I would not  have married a guy who didn't see the logic in this. 
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Pretty much every boyfriend  I had agreed this makes the most sense. [/quote]

Wow. So, you're not interested in creating a[b] new family and doing what's best for your kids[/b]?  There's your take, OP.

I have always found this to be really silly and hard on the kids in the long run. Who wants to deal with the hassle of a hyphenated last name, especially if they have no choice in the matter?

Thanks, PP, for proving that it's almost always about the[b] mother's ego[/b].
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Well, I was addressng this specific PP, who gave us the details that she carried and birthed the kids. I worked really hard on that one and concluded that it is a mother.

I don't care whose name they give them. But to hyphenate a name -- and saddle kids with writing, saying, explaining that for their childhood and beyond - is egotistical on the part of someone. In this case -- and in most cases - it's the mother. Yes. As demonstrated here.

Why isn't it about the father's ego when the kids are given his last name? Why is it only considered family if it's the father's name?[/quote]

Yeah PP, care to explain why using mom’s name is about “ego” but when it’s dad’s name, it’s “creating a new family” and “doing the best for your kids”?

Actually don’t bother. We know what the difference is. Hopefully you’ll wake up in 21st century soon.[/quote][/quote]

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