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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]U[b]nfortunately, bullying never stops until the bullied kid practices very hard. [/b][i]This not only improves his skills but more importantly greatly improves his/her self-confidence.

Being new to any team, there’s always a feeling of isolation unless the player joins with his/her friends too.  This happened to my DD when she joined a team 2 years ago. While she was a decent player, she was new to the travel team environment.  Hence, she didn’t understand some of the positioning and terminologies. She was fine after one season. In addition, she practiced a lot on her own and I noticed not only a spike in her skills but a huge spike in her confidence too. She’s now U13. [/quote]

This wasn't my experience, on the boys' side.  I was one of the best players on the team, but for social reasons wholly unrelated to the team, I was bullied by the older kids.  For the entire season.  Working harder and outperforming them did not change anything for the better.  Boys aged 13-15 are usually dicks because they're going through so much developmentally (physically and emptionally) that they have trouble controlling themselves.  And socially, they are so afraid of being "weak" that they will find any reason to single anyone else out.  [/quote]

Boys at that age can be very cruel. So did you stay with the team or leave?[/quote]

This was years ago, in a different sport that wasn't single age (it was a team of 13, 14, 15 year olds).  I was 13.  They were 15 (think about that - I was just out of 7th grade, they were just out of freshman year).  I gutted it out that first year, proved myself on the field, dreaded every practice and game.  Got into 2 fistfights, and the coaches made us both run laps for 30 minutes (coaches otherwise ignored it because the team was very good and they were bad coaches (former semi-pro players with no understanding of youth development)).  But I stayed because it was the best team in the area to play on, and I really loved the sport.  Talk about a Hobson's choice.  The next year, one year older and a veteran and one of the biggest contributers, the 15 yos left me alone.  I tried to help the younger kids, same the following year.  it still makes me mad.  If any of my kids ever bullies another kid, especially a younger kid, game over.  [/quote]

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