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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do not worry OP, just enjoy your pregnancy and babies.

I find that in real life other moms don't care/don't ask my age.  I was a younger mom at 22, but my son's 18 now (still happily married BTW, so lets squash that nonsense).  My aunt is 20 years older than me and we had babies at the same time.  If anything, it really bridged the gap in our relationship. She and I are closer than she and my dad.  We are in the same stage of life, and can relate to each other's parenting challenges.  She is more a peer to me than my parents, and that's okay.

[b]Similarly, my close friend, who is also 40 just had a baby.  I don't see her as an older FTM.  Just a mom, with a newborn, while I'm a mom with teens. It's really not a big deal anywhere than on DCUM where some people feel insecure in their choices.  Finally, most of the time being a first time mom is a product of circumstances and luck.  I met my spouse early, some meet their later.  It's the luck of the draw.[/quote][/b]

This is a very kind and reasonable post. Thanks, PP. There is so much handwringing out there about women "delaying childbirth" and all the supposed reasons for that. Honestly? If you're a smart and educated woman with multiple life goals? This can be dumb luck. Some women are lucky to find "their guy" and future dad early. Others are not, or need to take a few spins around the block to be sure. There is nothing wrong with either.

I echo the other PPs that this is nothing in DC. You are more the norm than not. And PP,, so right about you both just being moms. I think this friendship sounds fun! Your kids are older so maybe you're into those baby snuggles?![/quote]

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