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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It's a very common time for men to cheat.  Often but not always, couples completely neglect their intimate life and after years of it, men start thinking with their little brains.[/quote]

Did you notice thus is about kids under 3? So 1-2 years of marriage only.  That’s very early to lose the thrill.  And he’s an a@@hole if he can’t understand the recovery after pregnancy (no sex 6-8 weeks and complications).[/quote]
You do know not everyone pops out kids the second they get married?[/quote]

NP +1

The first PP seems to think that people meet someone random, accidentally get pregnant, and then marry the person while pregnant the day before they pop out the baby.

Some of us are together and even married for several (or even many) years before we think we have a good choice of partner for creating a family.[/quote]

I wrote that and we got married at 28 and had our first kid 7 years later (by choice waiting; pregnant on first try twice 35, 37).

My experience was that almost everyone we knew (and know) got married after 30 and started trying to have a baby immediately.   Many had no time to adjust to marriage before they were brand new parents.  That is A LOT of transition all at once.

People in their early/mid 30s are used to having years of freedom, worrying only about themselves---and then marriage and baby right away is too much for a lot of people, especially men to handle.[/quote]

We got married when I was 26 and we waited almost five years before we had our first baby. That period of time really gave us the opportunity to be a couple for a long time before we became parents. We had three kids in four years and it was a crazy time but we were ready for it. [/quote]

That's not a hard fast rule.  My XW and I were married about 7 years before we had 2 kids in 3 years.  She cheated and "fell in love".[/quote]

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