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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't have to asnwer but what are your younger child's special needs? That's going to impact the answer to this question. Will they make it harder for DS 1 to play with him and include him in the same activities in the future?[/quote]

Op here. The full scope isn’t really clear yet. He has a genetic disorder. It might look similar to autism. He has delays in language, motor, etc.

But the issues are he has zero fear, is very large and strong (the size of an average 3.5 year old but with the mind of an 11-16 month old). He cries a lot and is hard to soothe. He’s very determined.

Example: in the course of 2-3 minutes yesterday he:

Opened, climbed into dish washer and retrieved a knife and was carrying it around and would run away when we tried to take it from him
Reached up onto kitchen counter, got my phone, and put it in the toilet 
Somehow grabbed a glass and threw it on the tile floor, where it shattered 
Swallowed a penny

DS1 didn’t do anything like this [/quote]

This is very much like the description of my now 16 year old with moderate to severe ADHD.

Life will never be easy but you will learn how to function in this new normal. Do not bother comparing to what Susie down the street can do with her two kids while you couldn’t even dream of it with yours. It’s just not the same and never will be. Most people won’t understand but you will grow tough skin.

My teen is a good kid with extreme impulse control issues and has and will always be the fearless dare devil. It’s who he is and I’ve had to learn to accept that but damn it took a long time.

Love him, grow your patience and have faith in your parenting skills. He will turn out alright and you will grow into a better version of yourself.

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