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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, you would be surprised how many women want custody for child support and in most cases, even 1/2 of it is not used on the kid. This is a known fact based on various different levels of research. Can't deny it. [/quote]

The average child support payment in this country is $430.  So, you are saying that most women receiving child support are spending less than $215 a month on food, housing, clothing, childcare and all of the other expenses you have with a kid?
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The average for the country is incorrect way of looking at it. If someone is paying $430 then they would only be making $30-40K and imagine paying CS on that. In DC area, it's pretty common to see $2K+ as CS which is not even deductible in anyway. You also forgot the spousal support some spouses get and according to facts, it's mostly from men to women.

I remember, my poor handyman in a small town in SW VA was $1300 for his 2 kids. He had difficulty making ends meet but his wife with minimum paying job got her 3rd new car in 5th year. I wonder how much of that is going towards the kids. [/quote]

Why should it be deductible? I can’t deduct the expense of raising kids either.[/quote]

The person receiving the money should pay taxes on it.  [/quote]

Why? The taxes have already been paid, presumably at a higher rate, by the payor.[/quote]

Spousal tax deduction is no longer allowed and CS was never included in the taxes anyway. There has to be some accountability on where all the money meant for kids is going though. [/quote]

Cheat, lie and be a general jerk, leave your spouse and kid to move to and live a thousand miles away with AP and her kids (plural). Then of course I’m going to extract as much of the only thing I can legally extract from you. In this area CS in an amount well in excess of $2,000 even for one kid isn’t uncommon. Life is hard, juggling full time work and raising a child as a single parent, with little support from the other parent is extra hard. Being able to work 35-40 hours a week or even part time, and throw money at problems and being able to save money every month, makes for a much easier and less stressful life for parent and as a result for kid as well.

I know way to many women who tried to be nice, reduced awarded support obligations, only to have ex leave (men never leave until they have a relationship in the wings) and immediately set up new life with new gf/wife and her kids or have more kids with new wife. Forget that, that benefits my or your kid how?

If you choose to break the contract then I choose to care only about the security and stability of me and my own. And since we no longer have a contract you get no say in how I spend court ordered support. The court didn’t have a problem with how I was or planned to spend the money so why should you?

Play stupid games. Win stupid prizes![/quote]

What about the women who cheat and leave with the AP, take the kids, demand alimony and child support and refuse visitation and phone contact?  They set up a new home with AP.  That ok to treat dads that way?[/quote]

I’d say someone is lying to you.  Sorry if a Dad wants to be involved and has otherwise been committed to his family, and he wants shared custody he’s going to get it.  If he didn’t show up to court and fight then whose fault is that?[/quote]

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