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[quote=Anonymous]We're not living our best life at all -- this is incredibly hard.

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We have some friends who have been condescending for years about everything from schools to vacations to where we choose to live. They choose to overlook the obvious (that they have more options because he works in finance and therefore they have more money) and act as though things work out well for them simply because they are smarter about it. Well, now they are miserable. Their expensive private school is DL, so they are paying through the nose to watch and educate their own kids. Their parents and nanny are all high risk, so they've lost their extensive childcare network and have little time to themselves. And all the ways they used to destress (exotic vacations, lots of date nights out, workout classes, etc.) are unavailable right now. They are really struggling.

And I just... don't really care? I have empathy for pretty much everyone else in our lives (including other well-off friends who aren't smug assholes) regardless of their exact circumstances because everyone is struggling right now. But I have to admit that I almost feel gleeful when I hear this couple complain or hear through the grapevine how hard it's been for them to adjust. And I'm normally someone who encourages complaining! I like to vent and I don't mind listening to others do it. But these are people who literally argued with my husband and I when we said we'd decided not to have any more kids for financial reasons ("you just aren't budgeting your money correctly") and get snippy and condescending whenever anyone talks about public schools ("oh my god I can't imagine sending my kids to such shitty schools"). Honestly, I've been wanting to cut them out of our lives for years but we have tons of mutuals and my husband went to school with one of them so we continue to see them at kids parties and other gatherings.

Ugh, I feel like a jerk just for admitting this, but it's the truth. I don't actually believe you reap what you sow (some people never get the comeuppance they deserve), but this is one of those rare occasions when I feel like people who desperately needed some perspective are getting it and I can't help it -- I like it.[/quote]

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