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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]An invitation is not a summons.

They are not "exposing" anyone. They are holding a legal event and are informing everyone of the circumstances.

Guests are then welcome to make their own choices.

As long as they are gracious when people send regrets, there is no issue here.

Repeat after me, again, some more: An invitation is not a summons.[/quote]

Oh please.  I know people who have held grudges for de aces over who did not attend their wedding.  Yes, people expect others to attend.  They can not make you, but they still expect it.

Op, do what is right for you.  Maybe do not go at all and send a huge gift.  People who care about weddings tend to judge people on attendance and gifts.  [/quote]

Yes, and? You are absolutely right: people hold grudges over things like this.

Yes...and? And that effects you exactly how?

I do not care if people have unreasonable feelings or reactions to my reasonable choices and behavior. Let them grumble, let them stew. Their resentment and dissatisfaction does not affect me; it affects them. Let them choose to feel and behave that way. It's really not my problem.

If it long-term affects the relationship, it wasn't a relationship built on mutual respect and care anyway. So be it. [/quote]

It affects you because part of a rich life is having deep connections to family and friends? And so sometimes you do things you don't otherwise want to because it reinforces your bonds with the people who matter to you. And in this case, that's what you would ordinarily do - go to the wedding, even if you don't feel like it, because it matters to people who matter to you. But at this time you also have to consider the deadly pandemic - and so for most normal people with normal relationships you struggle to find the right balance.

I guess it's nice if you have a steel ball where a human heart ordinarily would reside because it means yu can respond to every wedding invitation with "AN INVITATION IS NOT A SUMMONS, GOOD DAY" without you caring at all how that's felt by the people in your life. Then I guess you go back home to not eat for 16 hours or something, maybe.[/quote]

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