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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Thanks for the perspective—it helps!  As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby.  I know it’s not logical.  I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little.  :D But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring.  I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).[/quote]
I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya.  I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy.  See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms.  But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children.  I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons.  But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.[/quote]

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again? [/quote]
PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end.  [b]Maybe OP had easy babies;[/b] maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy;[b] maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.  [/b]

There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies.  There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much.  IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.[/quote]

My kids are only teens right now[b] but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter.[/b]  i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like.  I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun.  But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.

My kids are slightly older than you but, I can't imagine looking forward to my kids having grandchildren.  Before anyone says anything I know people are different!  I am looking forward to helping them become independent and then doing things that my husband and I want to do.  I raised the kids and now I would like to take classes, travel with my husband etc etc Obviously this is before Covid-19.  I'm also looking forward to seeing what my children become and hopefully they will want to travel and make more memories just the four of us before they get into serious relationships.  I want them to enjoy their 20s without the responsibilities of marriage and children.

If they choose never to marry or have kids I am ok with that.
I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.[/quote][/quote]

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