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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.

There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.

My kids are only teens right now but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter. i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like. I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun. But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.


My kids are slightly older than you but, I can't imagine looking forward to my kids having grandchildren. Before anyone says anything I know people are different! I am looking forward to helping them become independent and then doing things that my husband and I want to do. I raised the kids and now I would like to take classes, travel with my husband etc etc Obviously this is before Covid-19. I'm also looking forward to seeing what my children become and hopefully they will want to travel and make more memories just the four of us before they get into serious relationships. I want them to enjoy their 20s without the responsibilities of marriage and children.

If they choose never to marry or have kids I am ok with that.
I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.

I'm the PP who said I look forward to grandchildren. That doesn't mean I want my kids to have kids young! Yes, I want them to enjoy their 20s, explore, find great partners, establish careers they love. But, parenting has also been a wonderful part of my life and I hope they have that too, ideally in their 30s (by which time I'll be in my 60s, retired and happy to help to the degree they'd like me to)

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.

There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.

My kids are only teens right now but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter. i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like. I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun. But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.


My kids are slightly older than you but, I can't imagine looking forward to my kids having grandchildren. Before anyone says anything I know people are different! I am looking forward to helping them become independent and then doing things that my husband and I want to do. I raised the kids and now I would like to take classes, travel with my husband etc etc Obviously this is before Covid-19. I'm also looking forward to seeing what my children become and hopefully they will want to travel and make more memories just the four of us before they get into serious relationships. I want them to enjoy their 20s without the responsibilities of marriage and children.

If they choose never to marry or have kids I am ok with that.
I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.

There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.

My kids are only teens right now but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter. i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like. I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun. But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.


My kids are slightly older than you but, I can't imagine looking forward to my kids having grandchildren. Before anyone says anything I know people are different! I am looking forward to helping them become independent and then doing things that my husband and I want to do. I raised the kids and now I would like to take classes, travel with my husband etc etc Obviously this is before Covid-19. I'm also looking forward to seeing what my children become and hopefully they will want to travel and make more memories just the four of us before they get into serious relationships. I want them to enjoy their 20s without the responsibilities of marriage and children.

If they choose never to marry or have kids I am ok with that.
I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:Late 20’s is too young to marry

Not really. Female fertility declines quickly in your 30s.

Not everything in life is about marriage and babies! Has it ever occurred to you that not everyone wants that type of lifestyle?! Instead of OP mourning that she might not get grandchildren, she should be proud that her kids are thinking for themselves and not conforming to what society thinks they should be doing.

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Anonymous wrote:Late 20’s is too young to marry

Not really. Female fertility declines quickly in your 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, if you are feel the need to snuggle babies and have some time, call / email your local hospital that has a NICU unit. They often need volunteers to hold babies when mom and dad can't be there 24/7.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.


Whatever you do make sure you treat both sets of grandkids equally. Don’t be like some of the grandparents here who only help/ babysit one set of grandkids, creating resentment and issues down the line.
There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.

My kids are only teens right now but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter. i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like. I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun. But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.

I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.


Whatever you do make sure you treat both sets of grandkids equally. Don’t be like some of the grandparents here who only help/ babysit one set of grandkids, creating resentment and issues down the line.
There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.

My kids are only teens right now but I'm also looking forward to (I hope) having grandchildren and helping out as a babysitter. i haven't forgotten what babies/toddlers/preschoolers are like. I *loved* those years. Yes, my babies were easy so that helped but I just find little kids so much fun. But, Ii can see why someone who thought the little-kid years were a slog to get through not at all appealing to go through again.

I won't be surprised if DD doesn't have kids or waits a long time but I hope DS is able to have kids -- he's wonderful with little children and is the rare teen boy who is an in-demand babysitter.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the perspective—it helps! As for the draw, I want more than anything to snuggle the baby from my baby. I know it’s not logical. I wasn’t even a baby person 30+ years ago when my kids were little. But there’s something about seeing my own child raise his or her own child that is awe-inspiring. I don’t think I can put it into words (clearly).

I'm the pushing 50 PP... I hear ya. I can't wait to hold my grandbaby in my arms one day (I hope), and then give the baby back to my kids when the baby gets fussy. See.. that's the thing... as grandparents, we don't have to deal with the hard part of parenting. We just want the lovely part of holding a sweet baby in our arms. But our children have to deal with the 24/7 stress of raising children. I don't want to put that on them if they are not ready just for my own selfish reasons. But yes, it would be amazing to see my children be parents one day.

But OP wants to watch the babies part time which means more than just handing the baby back. I guess I’m not at the stage of being a grandma but I don’t see the point of raising kids and then wanting to spend retirement raising kids again?

PT is still not waking up in the middle of the night for months/years on end. Maybe OP had easy babies; maybe OP has forgotten what it's like to be a parent of toddlers and their never ending supply of energy; maybe OP doesn't mind all of that.

There's this thing called "mommynesia", and it's why many of us have more than one babies. There's no such word as "daddynesia", and I hardly ever hear older men talk about wanting grandbabies so much. IMO, this is a woman thing that clearly stays with us well into our 50s and 60s.