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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok. I thought this was a real thread about how hard it is for SAHMs to get job after a divorce. It turned into OP's vent because she has been cheated on. LOL. Ha ha

OP, you are friendless are you not? Normally, you spew this in front of a group of super supportive girlfriends. Tsk Tsk.[/quote]

NP. You obviously have never been the victim in an affair.  It’s socially isolating.  Most don’t tell their families or friends, especially in the beginning.  It’s a major shock and whomever they tell will hold that against spouse for as ling as they live.  If they have kids they do NOT want their kids to find out about a parent’s infidelity. 75% of kids whose fathers cheated go on to cheat themselves.  It becomes a multigenerational issue.

It’s incredibly isolating for the betrayed spouse.  Initially it’s recommended they only talk to a therapist.  Unlike my spouses married AP who told all of her friends about the affair.  They were all cheating on their spouses and compared d@ck notes.[/quote]

Agree.  You run the risk of people mentioning it in front of your kids.  Some drinks, and somebody in the family will bring it up within earshot of kids.  Friends will gossip.  Their kids will hear.  It will get back to your kids.  You don’t want them to be gossip fodder or isolated in the community.  If your kids are toddlers not as big of a deal, but if you have preteens and teens and you are a good parent your first thought is protecting them.  It’s socially isolating.  People judge too.  Look at how people judged Hillary Clinton.  They always judge the victim.[/quote]

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