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Anonymous wrote:NP. I think therapists should be ethically bound to tell a spouse their health is at risk. If they know their client us having unprotected sex and still screwing the spouse I think that should be required disclosure. I sure as hell wish somebody had told me.

The therapist’s ethical obligation is to maintain client confidentiality. Who would trust a therapist if they knew the therapist could randomly decide they should share the patient’s confidences with others the therapist felt had a significant interest in the information?

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Anonymous wrote:Ok. I thought this was a real thread about how hard it is for SAHMs to get job after a divorce. It turned into OP's vent because she has been cheated on. LOL. Ha ha

OP, you are friendless are you not? Normally, you spew this in front of a group of super supportive girlfriends. Tsk Tsk.

NP. You obviously have never been the victim in an affair. It’s socially isolating. Most don’t tell their families or friends, especially in the beginning. It’s a major shock and whomever they tell will hold that against spouse for as ling as they live. If they have kids they do NOT want their kids to find out about a parent’s infidelity. 75% of kids whose fathers cheated go on to cheat themselves. It becomes a multigenerational issue.

It’s incredibly isolating for the betrayed spouse. Initially it’s recommended they only talk to a therapist. Unlike my spouses married AP who told all of her friends about the affair. They were all cheating on their spouses and compared d@ck notes.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious how many SAHMs had to get a job or lost the house after divorce?

Divorce is often glamorized and made that the woman gets everything and a glorious life when in reality it's the exception vs reality.

I'm thinking of a serial cheating woman I know whose husband just found out about her long affair.

This woman made excuses for not working for decades. Her kids are in high school.

How is this a question? She cheated. Yes, she should get a job and move out. Why should her husband/ex support her? My husband's ex cheated, they divorced before 30 and she gets life long alimony. Its absurd given her age and she cheated.

It’s crazy. Sane thing happened to my Uncle. She was crazy and made his life hell for 20 years. She never worked and he’s still paying her—even with job loss and his own major health issues- multiple myeloma.

There are just awfully selfish people in the world. I see it when I read the thread with the women attacking a 15-year old boy because mom deserves to bring boyfriends over and he isn’t getting with the program three years after her divorce from cheating on his dad.

Anonymous wrote:Ok. I thought this was a real thread about how hard it is for SAHMs to get job after a divorce. It turned into OP's vent because she has been cheated on. LOL. Ha ha

OP, you are friendless are you not? Normally, you spew this in front of a group of super supportive girlfriends. Tsk Tsk.

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Anonymous wrote:Just curious how many SAHMs had to get a job or lost the house after divorce?

Divorce is often glamorized and made that the woman gets everything and a glorious life when in reality it's the exception vs reality.

I'm thinking of a serial cheating woman I know whose husband just found out about her long affair.

This woman made excuses for not working for decades. Her kids are in high school.

How is this a question? She cheated. Yes, she should get a job and move out. Why should her husband/ex support her? My husband's ex cheated, they divorced before 30 and she gets life long alimony. Its absurd given her age and she cheated.

Anonymous wrote:Ok. I thought this was a real thread about how hard it is for SAHMs to get job after a divorce. It turned into OP's vent because she has been cheated on. LOL. Ha ha

OP, you are friendless are you not? Normally, you spew this in front of a group of super supportive girlfriends. Tsk Tsk.

Anonymous wrote:I was a SAHM, had an affair, and got divorced. I don’t know why people think going back to work is a negative thing, I really enjoy working.

Life is definitely better now. Kids are with their dad 50% of the time so I actually have more free time now than as a SAHM. My ex controlled all the money, so even though I make less than him, my standard of living is higher. There’s no shortage of men to date. Life’s pretty good.

Anonymous wrote:Just curious how many SAHMs had to get a job or lost the house after divorce?

Divorce is often glamorized and made that the woman gets everything and a glorious life when in reality it's the exception vs reality.

I'm thinking of a serial cheating woman I know whose husband just found out about her long affair.

This woman made excuses for not working for decades. Her kids are in high school.

Anonymous wrote:^ But yiu are still a liar and a cheater, so there’s that.

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Anonymous wrote:My cousin retired at 55 after a successful career. He now works part-time at Target and loves it. Don't knock it. He said tons of retirees work there.

The key is this man has a RETIREMENT. I know plenty of people that take jobs they love at retirement and not out of necessity.

My mom is similar she has taken on employment at places she loves.

This affair woman going behind her husband's back with kids that are still in high school--haven't even hit college does not have a retirement. She did not have any career, much less a successful one. She betrayed the man multiple times that has set her up in her McMansion while she boned other men.

Wow. You're really invested in this woman's downfall.

Totally. As she was in mine. Stalked me online for years before I ever knew about her.

Break the cycle OP. For yourself.

I am. Once her husband knows everything and my therapist calls, I’m done and won’t look back. I have a good career and good morals and wonderful extended family. She can sit and think about the kind of life she chose to live.

What does your therapist have to do with this?

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Anonymous wrote:NP. I think therapists should be ethically bound to tell a spouse their health is at risk. If they know their client us having unprotected sex and still screwing the spouse I think that should be required disclosure. I sure as hell wish somebody had told me.

The therapist’s ethical obligation is to maintain client confidentiality. Who would trust a therapist if they knew the therapist could randomly decide they should share the patient’s confidences with others the therapist felt had a significant interest in the information?