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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1 & 2 are not cool
3 normal, my DH says the same. 
4 & 5 you’re way to sensitive [/quote]

There must be other issues, yes?[/quote]

If this is his normal behavior throughout the years, I can't even imagine how detrimental to one's self esteem it is to have your flaws pointed out to you on a regular basis. Your spouse is supposed to be on your team, a source of support, your cheerleader, not your own personal source of criticism and negativity. I'm guessing whatever happened to ask for the divorce must have been the straw that broke the camel's back. [/quote]

This is true. PP who thought OP was being a bit sensitive, but putting myself on her shoes, this would really undermine my self-esteem. My DH would never speak to me in this manner.[/quote]

This kind of hypercritical behavior undermines more than just her self esteem, it undermines their bond as a couple. I am fully comfortable with hearing "babe, you need a breath mint" from my husband, BUT it's because normally he is very complimentary of me and lifts me up when I get down on myself (and I try to do the same). I don't think anyone can blame her for feeling like she would be better off without him if there's a steady stream of overall negativity. They aren't a team - he criticizes her when they're alone and calls her out in front of friends too. If he wants to save the marriage, he should agree to counseling, both individual and couples.  [/quote]

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