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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My profile did not have a picture, but I gave a verbal description of my looks, height, weight, and said something along the lines of “will happily provide a picture if you give me a good reason why you need it”.   Had enough takers and interesting conversations followed by dates, but ended up meeting my husband through my hobby.   However, not having a picture turned out to be a good screen.  [/quote]

How many years ago was this?  I don't think this would work today.  It's kind of a ridiculous approach to online dating, IMHO.  Would you buy a piece of clothing or furniture online that had no pictures but just a description of the object?  I guess you could say that providing a picture for people to judge is inviting them to be shallow, but if a guy doesn't provide a picture, I assume he's either disfiguringly ugly, or is in a relationship/married and trying to hide his trail so his friends don't see him online dating.  For better or for worse, physical appearance is important in a relationship and not providing a picture is hamstringing your efforts from the get go.[/quote]

Thanks for illustrating the situation I was trying to avoid.  I take (took prior to COVID) subway every day in NY, so I am well aware of the whole range of looks out there, and being disfiguringly ugly is very, very rare.   On top of that, trying to “trick” someone into meeting them in this way would be extremely stupid.  So, yes, I’d like to avoid dealing with guys who interpret any unclear situation as a negative event which has an extremely low probability in real life.   It’s a specific attitude, and no, I don’t want that.   I understand types, that’s why I wrote that I am a petite brunette - no need to bother if someone is into tall blondes.  Anyway, I definitely got fewer dates than I would with a pic, but the quality was good- less time wasted too.[/quote]

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