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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Ive coslept with my kid since 4 months when we moved him out of the RnP. He had horrible reflux that exacerbated a breathing issue. We moved him to his own bed for naps at 16/17 months and then naps and bed at 20months. Less than a month into that, a family member had to move in unexpectedly for 6 months, we moved into a bigger house and took a month to get used to the new house before we started transitioning into him sleeping in his room again. He is 28 months. Don't listen to the horror stories from peoples anecdotal experiences 2nd and 3rd hand.

Have you had a discussion with her regarding WHY she believes in co sleeping? I mean, what is the problem? You get 1-2 hours after bedtime, you get sex regularly (but in the shower?). she works FT, and is caring, involved mother.

Can you ask yourself how things would change (in your mind) if she stops co sleeping? What is the difference? You get tucked into bed vs your kid- I say that tongue in cheek but you need to make sure that if you are asking her how to change this big part of your sons routine that you aren't imagining some outlandish expectations for your evenings together. In addition, as a working FT mother- co sleeping is a way I can connect with my kid during the 10-12 hours I am away. and vice versa. At 28 months, he now babbles about his day in the dark and we talk about the next day (what going to happen). He will hold my hand as he falls asleep or ask for cuddles. I wouldn't change it for the world and my DH doesn't begrudge me because he gets time to read the news and watch Bill Maher- something I wouldn't do with him if I wasn't putting our son to bed. [/quote]

What OP described is not healthy for any marriage, and neither is this.  You sound defensive with an excuse for everything and it sounds like you are worried your DH may have similar concerns to OP.[/quote]

If you ever said this to my face after I explained my experience(s) to another individual, I would think you are an evil, haughty person who has reading and listening comprehension issues.

Nothing about my post above is an excuse. It is an example of a family that has made co sleeping not be into 10/12 years old and that my DH gets his alone time while I put our son to sleep. We TRANSITIONED our son to his own bed at a year and half after FT co sleeping and he still wakes some nights- that's what I was detailing above I was also asking him to really consider what not co sleeping would really change about their marriage and evenings. Bc if it doesn't change those then it isn't worth asking for it to stop just because some people on the internet think its weird or he misses snuggling at night. He can still do that and it seems like he still does.

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