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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also to add, isn’t this sad? You would have though the middle school antics would be gone at this stage in life. [/quote]

It is sad.  But it's a fact of life.  There are nasty people out there no matter what the demographic is.   The trick is to recognize them and quietly but completely disengage from them ASAP.  [/quote]

Agree. Disengage ASAP. I think I’m struggling with this because I want to say or do something to make this situation go away and for her to just chill and act like a nice person. But with some people, they are who they are. I know from past conversations a few groups of friends have confronted her and ended the friendship, more or less saying she’s not a nice person. So if she hasn’t learned from previous experiences, I am not going to be the one to teach her. [/quote]
So you will let this person continue to steamroll you?  Others have the balls to confront and you dont?
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Steamroll me.. I guess. I mean I’m not going to engage anymore. It’s not really affecting my relationships with other people even though I think she would like that to happen. 
Other people, I have stood up for or just invited. My reputation is overall an inclusive person and thoughtful friend. I have had many people thank me over the years for being the first person to introduce myself and include them and invite them.. people that are new. Over the last year, there have been a few people she wanted to get out of the group. No reason, just mean girl behavior. I made an attempt to reach out to them more and was vocal about it sending the message she was the only one who didn’t like this one woman. It really was over nothing too. I ended up hosting something with this person that everyone went to, except for her. There were a few situations like that. She backed down when she saw her attempts we’re not going anywhere but I just can’t deal with this anymore. We all have families and don’t have time for this. [/quote]

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