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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately, what you are dealing with here is a parasitic human.  She saw a good healthy target to feed off of (happy, outgoing you) and knew she could easily use you and then co-opt your friends.

She cares nothing for you.  She cares nothing for your friends.  People are nothing more than feeding opportunities for her.  This is evidenced by her need to control and direct people for her own needs.

I was in a situation like this many years ago.  I started distancing myself from the whole group and only reached out to do one-on-one with others.

Eventually, it wound up being just me and one other woman who remained friends.  The interesting thing is this woman was the only one who demonstrated the kind of personality, integrity and qualities that I would really want in a friend.  So she was golden.  She also saw through the parasite.  We left the rest of them to their feeding frenzy and never looked back.   [/quote]

Yah exactly that and others pick up on it.. most of our mutual friends have said you know how she is. The general feeling about her is we cannot get rid of her bc she has has inserted herself but everyone thinks she’s is awkward and no one feels particularly close to her. She just seems hungry for some weird status of being “popular”.. to who I don’t know? We aren’t in HS. But she talks about it a lot, announcing to multiple people that 135 people are coming to her child’s birthday. All super weird at our age. To complicate things further, I was asked to take a community role that she has said for years she wants to do at some point. I suspect this will cause her to be more aggressive towards me. I really don’t want to cause drama with her so I have for the most part done nothing. I mean is there a diplomat way to ask her to cut it out or should I just continue what I’m doing and see my friends. There is zero drama in any of my other friendships in the group. We still talk regularly and I see many one on one before this quarantine but have avoided planning group stuff for the obvious reasons. [/quote]

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