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[quote=Anonymous]My adopted child is a product of rape. Our doctor who specializes in adoption said you must tell him. What if he goes off as an adult and finds his birthmom and SHE tells him. The parents he trusted all his life lied to him. Nothing can make up for that. Now he will feel even worse and not trust you anymore. There is also a technique to telling the child... You do not use the word 'rape'. We are also told to talk to him about it when he asks, there is no age to tell him or not tell him. The doctor said if it is talked about lovingly by his parents then it will not be such a big deal as opposed to springing it on him when he is a teenager and he is already going through other emotional 'stuff'. Everyone deserves to know their life story. I would feel horrible if i didn't tell him and i knew i was keeping a secret like that from him. [/quote]
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