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[quote=Anonymous]I know I wasn't "invited" to post in this threat, but I have to say, your kids will likely grow up to be much more independent and better-functioning adults without all of the riches that you mention. I grew up solidly middle-class - ACTUAL middle class, like the equivalent of about $60k/yr HHI for a family of 4 today, not UMC - but I'm UC now. I have been constantly amazed since I was in college at the complete lack of basic life skills and coping mechanisms among my friends who grew up UMC and up. In college I taught half of my floor how to do laundry. After college my UC friends all relied on their parents to connect them with jobs and help them find a place to live. I saw tons of my friends get into major credit card debt in my late 20s because no one knew how to budget and they all felt like they NEEDED fancy meals out, expensive clothes, etc. Now I'm in my early 30s and have two kids and so many of my UC-raised friends are "just in awe" at "how I do it," because they can't imagine having to put in the work of caring for kids and sacrificing their bottomless brunch plans every weekend (or at least, they couldn't pre-COVID).

Not indulging your kids in constant luxury will be good for them. It forces them to have to learn how to make it on their own, because they KNOW that you can't be their parachute. Don't get me wrong, I had my share of times when I probably would have been better off with a cushion, and it was really hard to learn (and I'm still not great at) some of the skills that UC kids learn that are critical to success, like networking/social conduct at nice events. But I'd say the good outweighs the bad. [/quote]

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