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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Acting on your desires doesn't mean you don't love the other person.[/quote]

To me, loving another person means treating them with the dignity and respect that comes with a loving relationship. Acting on your desires without regard for their feelings and trust flies in the face of love. But if you don't believe that then we most certainly have a different concept of grown-up love. [/quote]

Do you think the age of the person makes a difference? If you’re in your early 20s and haven’t matured yet as opposed to someone who has been an adult for a longer time?

Do you think someone can comeback from doing something like this, or should you just be done with them?
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DP but I would be done with them because it's part of their personality and that isn't going to change.  If they can't be faithful to you when you are in your 20's and in your prime with little pressures around you then how will it be when you are older with more responsibilities and children in the picture.  I would see that person as flaky and not someone I want to go through life with.

Equally I don't think I could be bothered staying married to someone who chose to have an affair and ruin a marriage.  I would consider that they have opted out of the marriage and it's dead already.

Life is too short to waste on someone who deceives you and disrespects you.  I would rather be single than be in a bad marriage.

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Agreed. If they cheat on  you when you look your best, how will they act when you gain weight (from pregnancies) or get wrinkles, breast cancer?

Also, if you stay with them, how do they learn that you tolerate vs won't. Think of how you will beat yourself up if this happens again.

I would leave. Sorry, it would make me lose trust in, and respect for, the person.

They would become, in my mind. your average sleazy guy, not special enough to merit my love and future.[/quote]

Agreed.  Hard to come back when cheating occurs when all is good and they still feel the need to cheat.  [/quote]

I’m the one who asked this question and I’m actually the guy in this scenario, I’m 14:22 on the first page.  A bit over a year has gone by since I got back, and I, admittedly, spent part of the year lying about the other woman and then breaking up with my girlfriend at home and dating the other woman for a while.  For a long time, I truly thought I loved both of them, but I see that that was a dumb idea on my part.

I have come to my senses and would like my original girlfriend to take me back. I have apologized and we have done a lot of talking, but she’s really unsure. I don’t blame her. I do feel really bad about what I’ve done (I’ve never done anything like this before) and I was hoping someone here would say that it could be worth it to give someone a chance if he did something stupid when he was young.

I don’t think I’m sleazy and a constant liar and I really don’t plan to ever do anything like this again. Do you all think her friends are going to tell her to not give me a chance?[/quote]

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