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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a woman in my 30s.

Attractive, slender, gainfully employed, have my own hobbies and interests, but repeatedly strike out when it comes to relationships. It usually either fizzles out. Sometimes I'm the one who wants something serious and the man wants something casual. Sometimes the man wants something serious and I'm just not feeling it. Sometimes things go well and then the guy gets a job on the other side of the country. Whatever the reason, I haven't found the right person.

Except I did meet someone who I started to date and it looked promising. We met in February. And uh...now you know the end of the story. Social distancing killed it. Sure, we text back and forth and have video chatted a few times, but it's really hard to grow a relationship when you can't be physically together.

Anyway, what worries me is the idea that "social distancing" could go on indefinitely. As in, for a year and a half until we develop and distribute a vaccine, and then who knows what. It would be one thing if this were sure to be over by June, or hell, even August... but to need to stay six feet away from people you don't already live with... for the foreseeable future... looks pretty grim for an unmarried woman over 30.

Will the pandemic outlast my fertility window? And no, I'm not focused on nailing down this particular person that I started dating and intent on him wifing me up. As I said, it's kind of over before it even started. I'm speaking more broadly here, do we need to take a PROLONGED time out on dating/mating/courtship, potentially taking me til age 35?[/quote]

You seem mildly entitled, maybe a little self-absorbed? Just because you're pretty, skinny, with a good job and your own hobbies doesn't mean you're a good person or fun company. If those are the things you lead with when questioning why you aren't in a relationship, you might think men are more superficial than they are and it could be off-putting.

Love in the time of corona is definitely a thing. People are locking eyes over N95s and living on Facetime with those they met in a social media DM. If your guy isn't texting and calling like crazy trying to get to know you, he's just not that into you. Couples have been meeting online and waiting months/years to meet and marry, maybe try a dating app?

Don't be so doom and gloom. There's a lid for every jar![/quote]

You must be new to this board. OP described her looks, weight and positive attributes first because they are always, always questioned if the poster does not mention them. She's ruling out the inevitable hostile comments about her looks, etc. from the jump. As for him not being that into her, this if life during a pandemic - he likely had a bunch of other worries right now. He could even be sick with the virus. He could be having work struggles right now.

OP, you sound like a.catch. I wouldn't worry too much. My anecdata: I met my DH at 33, we married at 35, and had kids at 39 and 41 without any reproductive assistance.

In a couple of months, when there is an antibody test, the stay in place orders with probably sass up and you can meet. You might want to suggest meeting up now and talk while in masks six feet away - it may end up being a funny anecdote that you tell your kids. GL, OP.

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