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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boys (now young adults) always hold the doors open for women.  They’ll also offer their seats, stand when a woman approaches them, etc.  It has nothing to do with women not being capable of doing so. It’s simply a demonstration of respect.  They do the same for older people.  [/quote]

My husband holds the door open for just about everyone. So does my brother. I do too -- I'm a woman but ES taught to hold doors, open car doors, offer to carry packages etc. for elderly people, female or male. Because...manners. And extra attention to the elderly. Or guests. Or just friends.

The angry "women don't need doors held for them!" folks seem threatened and insulted by those who would offer respect. I guess it's seen as disrespectful or infantilizing. It's not coming from that place at all -- unless you choose to put that interpretation on it. But that's coming from those PPs, not from the door-openers. 
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Female here. I really don't understand why certain women have to be so angry and defensive about common decency. I was taught to be considerate of others, so if I am coming to a door and walk through first, I will hold it for the person behind me. I have many times held the door and allowed people to go first--out of a sense of trying to make the world a tiny bit better. (And yes, I try to do a lot to help the world in much bigger ways, but that isn't the point of this thread.)

I have also seen angry people glowering, walking through the busy streets, and then so often they see my tiny, super cute little dog. And it's like the person has no idea anyone is watching, and for maybe 15 seconds you see the person smile, then right back to the glower. I believe people do look for tiny examples of kindness in every day life. To hold a door is just one freaking example.[/quote]

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