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I'm sure this is colored by my relationship with them now. As a teenager or twenty-something I could name all kinds of things they did wrong. Now I see why they did them, I have more empathy for them as individual people, not just my parents.

Example: my mom was very independent. She had a strong career, hobbies, friendships. The result is that I had a lot of time on my own. By some measures she was a bit neglectful. I was on my own a lot more than any of my friends. By age 14 I was spending weekends home alone, by 16 I was home alone for a week.  I felt lost at times. But she also taught me Independence - both through example, and by forcing me to take care of myself. Good parenting? I don't know. But as an adult, when people ask me about my inspirations and motivations to do some of the really cool things I'm doing (which I love), I have to point to my mom. [b]She inspired and pushed me[/b], even if it wasn't always fun at the time.[/quote]

Do you think that's why she left you alone a lot?  I'm curious because it seems almost like you ended up being inspired as a result of what she did but not because that's what she was going for - it sounds like she was more doing what she wanted and got lucky that it resulted in you being independent.  I'm not being critical, I'm just curious.  I hope you don't take offense to my question.[/quote]

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