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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are being understandably sensitive. But as an outsider with kids beyond that stage, I can also imagine MIL's point of view. You are putting a lot of effort into something she chose not to do, or was unable to do. She might be feeling self-conscious, or even have feelings of regret and guilt. Giving you formula might be a away to push those feeling aside. On the other hand, maybe she has no regrets about not breastfeeding and hopes that she could help you feel better about a possible scenario in which you switch to formula. [b]In either case, it's about her, not you.[/b][/quote]

Which sucks for OP, because this is a time that a woman really needs it to be about her and have the people around her focus on her. Instead, OP has to deal with a MIL who is all about herself.[/quote]

Sometimes focusing on a post-partum mother means encouraging her not to be so hard on herself. What do you think a medical professional or husband should do if the mother is running herself ragged insisting on breastfeeding? Or if the baby is not thriving? It's attitudes like "focus on the mother, who is operating under extreme ideological pressures!" that really get me.  [/quote]

Only about 2% of women and infants have medical reasons precluding them from breastfeeding. Breastfeeding in the early weeks is a struggle for both mom and baby, until they both achieve mastery and establish milk supply. Struggle is a completely normal thing and baby and parents will struggle through many developmental phases. Sleep training is just around the corner...[/quote]

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