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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH does take on full mental load stuff, but he didn't when they were babies/little. I don't know what precipitated the change. It happened gradually when they were about 8 and 10. He started planning the whole summer of childcare and various sleepaway and day camps. He posted the job listings on the local college board, interviewed summer/school year nannies/mannies. Was the POC with them for years of driving logistics, and we had to get a new one nearly every year.

He has done all summer camp research, forms, pede visits, bookings, coordination with other parents for groups of friends to go to the same camp at the same time. For years. It is so amazing.

Now they are teens and we are in 2 busy carpools, one for school one for soccer. He handles ALL the annoying text exchanges for those - 6 families and all their changes and week to week random needs. It is so great.

I have no idea why or how. I just feel grateful.

Now they are 14 and 16 and he does SO much more than I do. [/quote]

we’re in the middle of this transition as well at 8, although I still and will likely always do far more than DH. also I can’t really forgive him for being MIA for all those years. He also refuses to recognize that there was any issue.  [/quote]
The resent will build, and it can affect how you view and feel about him, which in turn, can affect your sex life.  And then he will be on this forum wondering why you won't have sex with him.

Resentment can be a libido killer for many women.  [/quote]

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