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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious who handles all the bills and finances of the household?  In most I know it’s the dads, is that typical?[/quote]

As we close in on the year 2020, there really shouldn't be that many bills to handle. You can pay for most things on credit cards and then autopay the full balance every month (obviously the cardholder should be looking through periodically to make sure the expenses are valid). Mortgage payments, utilities, etc. can be automated as well. Handling the overall financial picture is not something that requires day to day input either. Maybe once/quarter or so. In my family, that's done by the mom because it is related to my professional training and experience. [/quote]

Sure you can automate paying utilities. But there's still work in setting it up, monitoring it, budgeting, assessing one-time purchases, changes as family finances change, etc etc etc.  It was never just about opening the envelope and writing the checks.  [/quote]

Maybe it's because I'm a financial professional who does things like mock up my tax return at the end of the year to make sure we've paid in enough well before filing time - but none of these sound particularly time consuming or onerous. Again, I'm the mom. [/quote]

Well yeah, you're a financial professional, so it's easier for you. I don't mind financial tasks (and I also double check my withholdings every year). But to examine one task in isolation is not the point. The point is that I do EVERYTHING administrative in the household.  Every.Thing.  All.The.Things.  [/quote]

If you are frustrated that you are doing All.The.Things. why don't you do something about it? Hand some things over to your spouse instead of just bitching about it.[/quote]

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