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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hello Parents,

This is an honest question, since I am not from here and might not be aware of what the acceptable norms might be in an Elementary School Aftercare setting. 
My kids go to aftercare every day and usually play with the same group of 2-6 kids, but are especially close to 2 kids, who are siblings. So, I see those 2 kids every single school day, since I and the other parent pick up at the same time. [b]The other parent and I are not friendly. [/b] I always say a quick hello to those kids, but I engaged in a little conversation with them the other day, since there was a conflict situation between them and one of my kids. This also happened another time some time ago. They are not big issues, you know, stuff like one kid excluded the other kid from playing etc, and I would just have a friendly little chat with them about what happened. But both my kids and the aftercare instructors are present and the conversation is not confrontational.  [b]When the other parent arrives and sees that I am talking to her kids, she seems to get upset about it.[/b] So, my question is: am I not supposed to talk to her kids?  Is this not acceptable in this culture? It is strange for me since the the kids are very friendly, so I do not understand why the mother would have to be so jumpy about it when she sees it. I am going to talk to the aftercare director and ask him this too, but I was curious to get some feedback. Thank you! [/quote]

OP, to me, this is the issue. If these kids were kids whose parents you were friendly with, it would be less of an issue. This parent doesn't like you. It doesn't really matter why. Talking to her kids about "a conflict situation" is not appropriate, whether it is conversational or not. You are a parent. The conversation between you and any child, including your own, is not going to be an equal, friendly conversation if you are talking about behavior. In this situation, you should absolutely not have raised the issue with her kids. You raise the issue with the aftercare provider, the parent herself, or your own kid, but you keep your interactions with the other kids neutral and appropriate.

Also, why does it take your kids 15 minutes to leave aftercare? That is about 10 minutes too long, in my opinion.[/quote]

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