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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I make 95k working part time and he makes 105k working full time. I could work full time but it would be hard to make more than what I do now, in a full time position. It's also not that easy for me to add to my client roster (it's complicated). Anyway, I get that he is contributing to our future retirement but my resentment stems that a slight difference for just a couple more years - 2 max - is coming at the cost of my mental health. I hold my breath trying to get all my work done in 2-3 hrs and I'm over it. Plus sometimes uber-cheap playgroup is canceled without warning which makes it impossible for me to work at all. I'm tired of this arrangement but our only way out is to pay significantly more (and not even that much - $1200/mo total) for part time daycare. [/quote]

NP. Your DH is being outrageous.

Tell him you're getting 40 hours a week paid childcare starting in 2 weeks so you can continue to earn your full time paycheck. The fact that you work your butt off with efficiency to get all that work done in 3 hours a day is none of his business.

He will be responsible for half that amount.

When he complains and asks why your request for the number of hours of childcare just went up, you can call it an outrageousness tax.

Seriously, if you're earning the same income AND he wants to split bills (and unilaterally decide to send money to his parents) then he can also pay for childcare for all the time he's out of the house. No way should you be responsible for more of it.

When you've had your fun, tell him you're kidding and you only want 3 solid hours reliable childcare per week so you can earn your full time income. It will seem like a bargain to him. Although honestly I don't know why you'd accept that, he sounds like an ass.[/quote]

THIS. The separate finances make no sense to me but if you are going to do it that way then he pays for 50% of childcare, as you make almost the same $$. Why wouldn’t this be the case?? And then yes- if he comes back down to earth- say the 3 days will work fine. Seriously how ridiculous. He is making 100K snd balking at 600/mo for “his half” of childcare!?! A bargain. And again for the record I think the separate finances is unwise. [/quote]

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