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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So OP has now shared that she isn't doing anything extra for the in-laws.  So much for her being put out.  Basically, she's got what I would say is a weird control issue about her family.  I say "her family" and not "her husband's family" because once she had their grandkids, she created a lifetime bond with them.  These are not random visitors, they're family.  She needs an attitude adjustment or else her kids will grow up to be cold people like her.[/quote]

She doesn’t have weird control issues. She just doesn’t want her in-laws staying in her home 10 days a month. Having a family doesn’t mean allowing all family members to stay with you whenever and for however long they wish and not feeling imposed upon or put upon when relatives come to stay for days at a time. Remember that OP said her husband’s parents are resentful when OP and her nuclear family spend holidays with OP’s parents. To me, that is telling. Her attitude is fine. She and her husband need to get on the same page about grandparents visiting and staying the night. That’s the issue here. If OP has any issues, it sounds like they are more in the realm of not being proactive with her husband about her real feelings.  You, on the other hand, seem prone to wild conclusions about people you don’t know based on limited information and your own issues. [/quote]

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