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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm white (though not born in US), married to a Taiwanese guy.

I'm wondering if she's feeling insecure in the marriage and this is her way of getting attention. Or if she feels slighted or taken advantage of in other ways, and [b]this is her way of settling the score[/b]. As someone who grew up in the U.S., she must realize that your marriage isn't going to follow traditional Chinese customs. Does she behave as a traditional Chinese wife, and that's what's prompting her to make these demands? And[b] are you very wealthy, and is that why she married you[/b]?

[b]I know that it's typical in Taiwanese couples for the woman to control the finances, regardless of whether she works outside the home, and for her to limit spending[/b]. But again, when a person marries outside the culture, he/she can't expect same.

In sum, I think this is just the excuse, and something else is bothering her. How you respond is key. I don't mean you should give in, but you should be careful and treat her well but firmly state why it's a no-go.[/quote]

1. I've considered if there is something else going on and I've asked and I'm having trouble unraveling the various statements. They have ranged from comments about anniversary gifts, to cars, to how her mom and dad do things...
2. I do ok but I'm not "wealthy."
3. Her dad turns over money to her mom. I don't think he turns all of it over but they have some kind of arrangement. Her mom is obsessive about money. She physically goes to the bank a couple times a week to check on it. I very frankly told her and her mom and her dad to their face that we would not be doing that sort of thing and I asked them to respect that. I am wondering if her mother is causing some amount of this issue behind the scenes. [/quote]

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