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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The ex is not supposed to be paying the sole cost of raising the child which many of you seem to think.  Yes, the mom needs to work and support her kid and the dad contributes not pays for everything! The mom is on a budget whether she wants to be or not and she can not afford all the extras. That's life.  So the extra summer camp she wants - she should either pay for it or forgo it.  
....We do now have a child of our own and I am not the OP, but I spend far more on his kids than I do on my own.  The priorities are different.  Would I choose not to send my child to camp.  I AM!  Its a luxury and at this point, getting money saved for his college is far moor important.  We also are not lavish on toys or anything else and I don't even buy birthday or holiday gifts yet for my own child and always have my husband's.  But, at some point, you have to start saying no and setting some limits as dad isn't an endless money pit and mom has some responsibility.  And, it is OK to say NO to your children and teach them about money/be financially responsible.   There is far more I'd like to do for my child but there is need and want and there is a balance and my priority is my child's future and he has what he needs now but I am far more concerned about his future.  I will tell my child, I pay your food, clothing, health insurance and lots of extras and you have what you need.  That is great XXX has the coolest cell phone but your dad and I don't have them and neither are you!  But, unlike XXX, this is my priority and I hope it will be the same when you have children.

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So leave the kid home all summer with mom? learning and growing how? Kids need to be around other kids to learn and grow. Most kids will be in camp b/c their parents are at work. Again, if DH's husband can afford it why not ? And how on God's green planet is this step mommie dearest business? [/quote]

OMG! Leave the child home with his mom! Expect his mom to actually contribute to his "learning and growing"?  Ridiculous!!!

If the mom wants/needs camp for her kid, she needs to pay for it.

She shouldn't be setting her son up to believe that her dad and/or she has unlimited resources for him to do anything he wants. [/quote]

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