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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Against my better judgment, I got roped into a family vacation with my parents and preschooler. DH is at home. My kid has been an incredible sport over the last few days, but late nights were finally wearing on him, and he had been a defiant, crying mess for parts of the day.

It was finally about 6:15pm, after a long day with no stops for snacks since lunch or naps, so I wanted to prioritize getting something for my kid to eat before a really big meltdown happened. I repeatedly said, “let's go, we have to go, [child] is hungry, we need to eat,” etc. My dad was fiddling with trying to download some audio of a news program on his phone (definitely not mission critical to feeding a hungry, tired kid), and after about five minutes of this, every other person went out to the car to wait for him. He finally showed up 10 minutes later, and insisted that we couldn’t leave until he figured out how to connect his phone to the Bluetooth in the car so that he could listen to his news program. After fiddling with this for another three to four minutes, I finally said something to him about us needing to go, and then he roared back stating, without a hint of self-awareness, that he, had in fact, been waiting for us this entire time.

Once again, against my better judgment, I told him that we had been waiting in the car for him for 10 minutes. He then stormed out of the car, and threatened to not have dinner with us (which would have been totally fine with me). My mom cajoled him back to the car, and then he proceeded to lecture me in front of my child about how disrespectful I am, and that I would never say something like that to a coworker or a friend. I told him that none of my coworkers or friends would ever do that.

Something like this happens every single time we spend time together. It’s an unbreakable dynamic, but I am terrible at just keeping my mouth shut. He has this victim complex and he’s a bully, which is a terrible combination. He just has no concept of what’s going on immediately around him or the needs of others.

1. How have I not learned my lesson about vacationing with my parents?
2. Being realistic that I will have to spend time with him in order to spend time with my mom, how do I handle this?[/quote]

Wait... do we secretly have the same dad?

Are you my long lost half sister?!?  :lol: [/quote]

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