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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Personally, I attend family events and shared vacations.  But, I always make plans for my own nuclear family and our priorities.  With the exception of when we traveled out of the country, I always make my own travel arrangements, ensure we have a vehicle, ensure we have lodgings that work for us, even if we are not staying at the same place as the rest of the family.  I also make sure that we have adequate food and snacks that meet our dietary concerns.  It is not anyone else's business or job to account for us and I don't ask for accommodations, I make them for ourselves.  This last vacation, I made the mistake of agreeing to arrangements that my mother had a travel agent make for the family and, as expected, there were several issues of ours that were completely overlooked and having not made the arrangements myself, I regretted it.

In the future, it's back to making my own plans for family vacations.[/quote]

That's fine if it works for you. But as PP mentioned, it is an awful lot of emotional and actual labor, particularly for people who don't seem to be looking after your interests very much. In OP's situation where an adult is raging and a child is having daily breakdowns from exhaustion, it doesn't sound like spending one's budget and time off on this type of travel is worthwhile. [/quote]

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