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[quote=Anonymous]	I think some parents view us as teenagers, always. They see us with our kids and it's almost like they see us with a tiny version of ourselves, or themselves, or with a much younger sibling. There have been many times when my dad will say to one ofmy kids "get mom" and they'll come get me, only to have him be puzzled that they got me not *my* mom. This isn't new behavior, he's done it since my oldest was a toddler and could follow the "get mom" instruction. 
I think some parents respond better to our spouses then they do to us. I can tell by the energy level how my parents will respond and there are times when things go a lot better when my husband says "The kids need to eat now" then if I do.

I'm not sure if seeing a spouse trips something in their brains, or if they view their adult children as a kid who can wait until the adults are ready.  Think about it, how many of us have pushed dinner back or told our kids to wait a little longer to eat.

For those of you who say they'd stop at nothing to meet the needs of their child, everybody is brave behind a keyboard. OP can't legally drive the car if she's not on the contract. Maybe she should be on the contract, but she wasn't, at least not then, and I don't blame her for not risking a literal accident.

OP, I'd suggest you only vacation with your parents when your husband is present.  My guess is your dad wouldn't berate you in front of another man. Most men won't.  I'd make plans to leave this vacation, I'd tell your husband what happened, and I'd tell him the new plan, i.e. he will always be present with you when you visit your parents, and the two of you will always have the means and ability to gtfo if you need or want to.  Your part is to realize that based on your dad's shouting at you (and I'm assuming this is what really happened) that you don't see your parents as much as you or they may like.  Actions have consequences and you are not obligated to be mistreated by anybody. That's the good thing about being an adult.    
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