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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why do people get so insulted at the "seek therapy" recommendations?

Honestly, finding a good therapist is a nice thing you can do for YOURSELF. It's an hour you get to spend with someone who mostly only cares about YOUR welfare and how YOU are doing, not your husband, not your kids, not your other family members, not your boss, etc. etc.

It's a form of self care, really.

Most of us moms are so busy running around caring for other people and putting ourselves last. As an adult it's unusual for other people to be like, "oh but how are YOU doing with everything?"

A therapist will do that for you though, make you take time for yourself.[/quote]

I think because it is 2019 and everyone is already aware of the option of therapy. These are grownups. They know therapy exists.

Many of us a very frustrated with the repeated therapy suggestions because we aren’t mentally broken, we are in bad situations, drowning in responsibilities, and have little practical support. And no matter how often we explain that, we are still met with a never ending chorus of “Therapy, Therapy, Therapy!”

It makes us want to scream. It’s right up there with “Snack Tray!” And the “Welcome to Holland” Poem.

Yes, for all f*cks sake, we have heard it already! 
I’ll repeat: WE HAVE HEARD IT ALREADY!

And some of us are livid at this pointt.

For many of us therapy is not an answer to lack of time, resources, or support. I personally could use a respite worker, a mom who gives a damn, a crisis hotline, an weekly visit with an Behavior therapist, Social Security retirement credits, an insurance program that pays at least for part of my kid’s therapies and pays for our legitimate medical claims instead of wasting dozens of hours of my time so I don’t get bilked out of a couple grand, a state waiver (been on a waiting list for four years), funds for a special needs attorney, and some time to go work out. A therapist isn’t going to help with any help of that.

Those things would actually help. Shelling out $120/week to cry in front of person who doesn’t even have a SN kid does NADA for me, except for the script I get for Xanax at the end. I wouldn’t need the Xanax if I had access to the above. [/quote]

I am saving this. When my husband cheated and left me with an infant, everyone is like "omg you need therapy to deal with this"... no it's cool he is a jerk and I am over it. I need to figure out how to raise this kid on my own
When my son was dx with ASD "you need to look out for YOU TOO, and should see a therapist".. yes because I spend hours driving him to his therapies and trying to juggle single motherhood and working full time, yes let me add another thing to go to every week so I can tell someone "this is hard..." no shit this is hard, lol

"therapy" comments and religious comments "God only gives you what you can haaaandle" (this one makes me ragey), or "keep the faith! God will see you through this"... REALLY? Well why can't God just cure my kid and allow my child to live a healthy happy life! No? Oh how nice.. yeah let me praise that. No thanks.
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