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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My best friend tried a VBAC after a scheduled C section for a breech baby. She had some really fanciful notions about vaginal childbirth being some kind of empowering and beautiful experience she has missed out on and felt like she has failed in her first for having a section and was hell bent on trying for a vaginal birth. Some of her friends had had vaginal births tried to disavow her of these unrealistic expectations and to explain to her how painful and difficult the experience was but she wouldn’t hear it. She ended up having a long and painful labor and then a traumatic emergency C section which she said was far worse than the scheduled one. I think the only benefit she has now is that she can still run easily with no leaking or pelvic floor issues. But even after all that she still seems to think she missed out on something from not having a vaginal birth. [/quote]

Screw you.[/quote]

Why? If mom and baby are healthy and no one died or was permanently injured, WTF does it matter if baby came out of your belly instead of your lady bits? Plenty of vaginal births are horrific and injurious but the VBAC community refuses to hear that. [/quote]

Are you really this uninformed? I knew even before I was ever pregnant that these kinds of thoughts and feelings are common to the C-section experience!

Let me drop this little fact on you:[b] Feelings of loss, missing out, doing something wrong, failing, and not fulfilling "your job as a woman" ARE SO COMMON AND UNIVERSAL POST-C-SECTION THAT IT IS LITERALLY PART OF THE VIDEO THEY MAKE YOU WATCH WHEN YOU LEAVE THE HOSPITAL.[/b] It is literally part of any book about C-sections or birth experience. It's a totally normal, common, natural, nearly universal experience that doctors and scientists study it.

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I note you have no response to the bolded. Hmm, wonder why?[/quote]

Still waiting![/quote]
I am not that poster, but what video are you talking about? I have had two sections at two different hospitals and never saw a video.  I am so confused why you are demanding this poster respond to you? [/quote]

[b]Well, let's see, darling; I told her to screw herself, SHE ASKED WHY, I told her...and my answer seems to have shut her up. So there you go.[/b]

I had two C-sections--1 emergency and 1 planned as I chose not to attempt VBAC--at Anne Arundel County Hospital in Maryland (Annapolis). Part of your check-out process it to watch a video and read literature about how to care for yourself/partner, what to watch out for (fever, tclots , these exact  feelings of sadness and failure) so as to be prepared and on the lookout for problems and to know what to do if complications arise, etc.

If you read ANY BOOK about childbirth that includes info about C-sections, there are whole segments about these exact feelings...what with them being totally normal and part of the process for many people, and all![/quote]
Or maybe she was thinking “don’t engage crazy”.[/quote]

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