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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP. I don’t want to have to sit prisoner in my room until she leaves. Why should I have to? And no, I don’t like parading around in pajamas with wet hair and makeup off and whatever else, that’s my preference. Why shouldn’t I be allowed that? I want to come downstairs, make a tea, sit in the living room, maybe watch a show. Why isn’t the hour I’m upstairs getting the kids to bed enough alone time? And if it’s not, why can’t they take it somewhere else! Also the kids do go to bed reluctantly because they are laughing and seems to be having fun that they think they are missing out on. It’s hard to sleep with dad and grandma laughing right below you. Why isn’t that enough time? Why can’t she leave?[/quote]

Why are you asking all of us instead of discussing this calmly with your husband? Why the post that originally blamed your MIL, even though this isn't really about her, and is about you and your husband and setting up house rules for guests on a weeknight?

Living with someone, husband or not, is about compromise.  If I wanted my dad to come over for a chat, just two Mondays a month, I would be pretty upset if my husband tried to put a stop to it simply because he refused to watch tv in some other part of the house.  To me, that would be overly rigid and not considerate of my wishes.  But perhaps your house is smaller, with no other area to watch tv, or perhaps the walls are thin and it would make this dynamic not workable.  That's fair.  You should feel like you can calmly talk about this with your spouse and come up with other options.  Maybe once a month, the MIL could stay past bedtime.  Perhaps the other time, he could go out with his mom to dinner after a quick hello with the kids.  In exchange, he could do all the kitchen clean up when he gets back, and handle bedtime another night of the week so you could catch a break.[/quote]

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