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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op again

I don’t think she’s actively pursuing anyone from what I can tell (checking texts, messages, emails, phone bill) but I can’t know if that means she does or doesn’t have someone in mind. I also don’t buy into this hippie new age stuff as someone put it that open marriages or polyamory or whatever you wanna call it is normal or acceptable. At this point I’m just mad. Of all the women out there who just want to marry a man that faithfully commits she isn’t one of them? Really? I’d take vanilla sex over this any day[/quote]

But you’re not pleasing her. You have fairly vanilla sex, she’s clearly wanting more, but you shut down things she asks for. All the while you’re going on about being adventurous and how that should be enough for her. She brought up a possible solution. It doesn’t sound like she’s seeing anyone else already. It doesn’t have to be a big deal unless you make it a big deal. Clearly you’re insecure and will create a problem though. She isn’t excited by vanilla sex and asked to spice it up. Tell her no, she can’t have spice. Then she can decide whether an intact marriage or spice is more important.

Does she know you snooped and read all her texts and emails?

How many times have people on dcum said to have this conversation with their partners? If you aren’t fulfilled, don’t have an affair. Instead tell your spouse you want an open marriage if your needs aren’t being met. That’s what she tried to do and now her DH is jumping to her having affairs.  [b]This is why most people cheat instead. If you’re going to get the grief of screwing around, you might as well get the fun of it too.[/b] [/quote]

This exactly.  The number of sexually depressed, higher libido spouses who raise the issue, discuss an open marriage and actually get improvement is statistically close to zero.  Instead, all it does is get the other spouse suspicious, snooping and on guard.  She should have just cheated on the road like the rest of us and pretend it never happened.[/quote]

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